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Are you a people pleaser? Do you find yourself frustrated and angry with yourself because you know you're not living your truest life? Do you sacrifice what you want in life out of fear of what other people think about you? If you want to become a badass of your life you need to stop NOW. You need to quit old bullsh*t habits, old ways of thinking, and take charge of your fu*cking life. I want to show you how to become a badass of your life and start living the life you want and deserve today!
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Many people want to be a badass of their life. They want to be in control and live an awesome life of their making. However, many have no clue how to do it. How do we begin to figure out what an awesome life is, what it entails, and how we can become it?
When we think of someone who is a badass, we often think of someone dressed in leather, whom rides a motorcycle, and rocks a large beard. That's probably true, but we can all be badass. Badass isn't a physical thing though, it's mental. Whether you're a techy nerd, a nurse, a politician, or an artist, you can master your life and your attitude to be a total badass.
SO, WHAT IS A BADASS?
Badass people are rebels. They are independent people. They are independent thinkers. They don't fall prey to social norms and expectations. That do what they want to do, when they want to do it, with whomever they want to do it.
They don't care about the opinions of others. They are completely free. They need nothing from anybody because they are completely content and happy on their own. They don't need to rely on anyone else for anything. Do they like the company of others? Absolutely. Do they care about other people? Absolutely. Are they in relationships? Absolutely. However, their relationship doesn't define who they are. If they lost the relationship, they'd be fine and happy on their own. Why? Because they're a badass.
HOW DO I BECOME A BADASS?
The first step in becoming a badass is: STOP BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER. This is someone who has an emotional need to please others constantly, even to the expense of his or her own needs. It's a constant need to be liked. It's a constant need to have external validation. Though it may come from a caring place of emotional connection to others, it can lead to serious identity issues.
I personally have suffered from this. Many people have. We are raised to be sheep and please the herd. When you get older and realize that you don't care for the herd so much anymore, you start to develop the wisdom to do your own thing. Why? Because it's your life and nobody else's. You learn to think F*ck the status quo.
Being a nice person is valid; and you shouldn't walk around being rude. It's just also more important not to take yourself for granted, and not let people walk all over you.
WHAT TYPE OF THINGS DO BADASS PEOPLE DO?
Whatever they feel like fu*king doing. Their not held back by what others think or do. They're action takers. They just go for it when they feel like it.
They follow their own path. They say what they mean and speak their mind. They don't bow down to indifference. They have personal confidence - because they know who they are and what they like.
WHAT IS NOT A BEING BADASS?
Cry, complaining, say life is unfair. Moan about other people. Looking at life half empty. Being a dick for no reason. Having no emotional control and losing your temper easily. Being a superficial egotistical prick. Ego tends to come from an attachment to power. Being badass is being autonomous to attachments, therefore power is not important. F*ck power, and f*ck ego.
There is integrity in being a badass. Ignore the haters, losers, pessimists, and people who bring nothing but negativity to life. They let those losers go. Why? Because they're a badass.
HOW TO STOP CARING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT YOU
There are many things we can do to stop caring about what others think about us. The first thing is to accept ourselves wholly and completely. We are imperfect. We have flaws. Who fuc*king cares? When we learn to let go of attachment towards social approval, we can begin to live our truest life. Here are some helpful ways to get you started.
1) Love yourself
You have to love and accept yourself. Value yourself. Value your life. You are important and deserve to be heard and seen.
2) Know your values
Knowing your top core values keeps you centered. If compassion is a priority, you always show it no matter what. If you value decency, you stand up for it.
3) Know that you have flaws, and you accept them
No one is perfect. Perfectionism is often a symptom of ego. Let your ego go and you truly accept being a badass. You stand up for yourself, yet you're still always ready and willing to accept when you're wrong.
4) Follow Your Passion and Dreams
Badass people have a vision. Badass people live life on their terms, therefore they go for it. They don't listen to what other people think they should or shouldn't do. Follow your passion badass!
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Matt Jones is a writer and entrepreneur with multiple businesses who loves inspiring others to reach their full potential. He is also a musician, educator, and world traveler whom has been to over 40 different countries on all 7 continents.
His personal mission is to create and inspire. He is from Los Angeles, but is now based in greater London where he lives with his wife and son.